Young girl’s woe- The Counsellors View
It seems like all of a sudden the world and our society has hastened its pace. The past few days we have come across umpteen number of fatal incidents where minors, who hardly even know about their own body are been traumatised by the beasts who roam around openly. Whilst we are helpless on that front, there are things that we as mothers and teachers can take up to understand better the girls of today.
We at Thecompletetewoman.in have chalked out a qualified study with the aid of two clinical psychologists who share with us the paramount issues that girls face at school and college level. Ms. Disha Chhadva, a gold medallist in Clinical Psychology works with kids at an International school , assisting them with emotional, behavioural and academic concerns as well as life skills mentorship and parent & teacher training sessions.
Mrs. Khushali Adhiya-Shah, also a university gold medalist in the field of Clinical Psychology along with Applied Counseling & Child Psychopathology, is pursuing a doctoral program at the University of Mumbai and is presently contributing
as an Assistant Professor at Mithibai College of Arts, Mumbai.
The chief issue that Ms. Chhadva shared of girls at school level is the beliefs and rituals regarding menstruation that confuses the young minds who are already emotionally occupied in dealing with it. She says that the myth related to menstruation should be done away with so that the turmoiled situation of “whom to believe, home or school” does not torture the young mind. On dealing with such disturbed early teens Ms Disha she asks them to find a scientific reason behind certain practices and only if the mind allows to follow it.
On the other hand, Mrs. Khushali, a counselling psychologist finds girls expressing their concerns about incest, body shaming, peer pressure, sexual orientation and the pressure of abiding by social expectations and emotional swings as the major issues. Considering the fact that they have just begun as decision makers for their careers these issues are too much to deal with which why she offers systematic, ethical counselling services to explore the areas of difficulty while facilitating the process of healing from within.
Khushali Adhiya-Shah best associates herself with the fact that ‘the best relationship one will ever have is with yourself so nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eventually, you will always have a choice – either to change the situation or to change the way you look at it’.
Ms. Disha Chhadva relates with the idea that ‘positive feelings come from being honest with yourself and accepting your personality and physical characteristics’. She goes on to share that the young teens at school level have already begun to find their body image and self-esteem as a matter of concern. It is ghastly to know that while generations before, we hardly knew of half of the things that girls go through today, it becomes our responsibility to deal with it with utmost sensitivity. She thus explains to the innocent hearts that ‘the body is the gift of nature and thus one must learn to love, accept and take care of it’.
Mrs. Khushali recommends mothers and teachers to raise the girls in an egalitarian, respectful and mutual surrounding which will help them develop an emotional strength by learning to accept themselves for who they are.
Ms. Disha also recommends the woman around girls as young as school kids to talk to them about issues around them and be easy for them to be able to comfortably confide. When asked about a generic message that they would like to share with our readers Ms. Disha said, “Teach your girls to be thoughtful of others as well as independent; we are moving to make a better world so love yourself and never compromise on yourself respect.” Mrs. Khushali adds, “One day, they will walk in your shoes; make sure they are pointed in the right direction.”
In the end, Khushali Adhiya-Shah urges Indian Women to explore who they are, accept and themselves as they are and for how they want to be, within the purview of the nature without the fear of societal bonds. Ms. Disha more than agrees with the same and seconds this thought.
We at Thecompletewoman thank these accomplished Counselling Psychologists for their time and for helping us women to cope and deal with the youth of today. Personally, I wish for all our readers to pay heed and not neglect the smallest sign of discomfort in the young girls’ mind.