Break The Stereotype- Make HER Relentless
As women, we all at one point in our lives have come across a myriad of questions. Questions that society put forth. Questions, which we couldn’t avoid but face them upfront. Innumerable rules are imposed on us, just because we’re women. And if we do not fit in, or try to go way out of the box, we’re considered to be “unacceptable”. The question here arises as to not what makes us “acceptable” but what DOESN’T. Is it wearing clothes we think we look good in? Is it making a tough career choice; whether it is working late nights or staying alone? Is it when we want to travel solo? Or, with a bunch of only guy friends?
It’s always the “Hawww” that intimidates many of us to follow our dreams. So much so that, we end up locking them down in a closet so deep, that it gets too difficult to find them again. We “compromise” and “adjust” . We’re just MEANT to be like this, right? And God forbid, when we do collect courage to ask if we can do what our heart says, we’re hit with this sentence- “Ye sab toh mardon ka kaam hai” (All this is meant for men to do). The doubt within our minds always lingers, what are WE meant for?
They say we’re programmed to perform tasks in the kitchen, we just ought to know that, we BELONG in the kitchen and when a girl doesn’t know how to cook, she only knows how she’s looked down upon. They start to belittle you. My question is what makes us “ourselves”? It’s of course the society which constantly tries to put her down. But primarily it’s the family that has the power to break the nonsensical stereotypes and raise her to be what she’s always wished to be.
If you’re blessed with a girl in your life, raise her to be invincible. Raise her to be unconquerable. We know, life is tough and our planet is no more a LA LA LAND. But why haven’t we considered raising men by teaching th
nning version of herself. Her perfection is not defined by the round shape of her rotis (Indian flat-bread) or how well she prepares that tempering for the curries, it is defined by the number of times she’s proved to be extraordinary at work and defies all odds in almost all walks of life. DO NOT make her learn how to drape a saree unless she learns it is more important to be draped in confidence. DO NOT raise her to impress a guy who doesn’t even know what hell of a storm she is.
Her strength is not only defined by the amount of efforts she puts consistently to adorn the house, her strength is also defined by the intensity of the crisp slap she gives someone who has tried to pester her and has very well deserved it. Raise her to be kind but also a SAVAGE when needed.
Raise her to be your LAKSHMI, Someone’s TULSI, but also her own DURGA.
This is one side of feminism, and quite moderate and practical, but in the next article, we will write about the other extreme pseudo feminists and how to know where the line is!